PlusOne...
I am a male, 58 yr old, married, and I am involved in a few AA groups in my area.
Your husbands behavior is entirely inappropriate, and you should take the necessary steps to get the equilibrium you need and deserve in your life. Based on your relationship and your values, you probably know what those steps need to be.
The other issue. if you do have men 'hitting' on you in AA as a newly sober member, that is completely inappropriate also. My suggestion is to be direct, but polite, at the 1st instance, and if it happens again I suggest going to the next Group Conscience meeting of that group and voicing your concern, or ask for the group leadership to intervene. You have just as much a right to be at an AA meeting as anybody there, if you are there with a desire to be free from your addiction. DO NOT LET YOURSELF BE VICTIMIZED by someone else.