(((((Wing)))))
He has been an addict since he first picked up the weed! It is a progression sometimes slow and sometimes quick getting worse. He has also been a user all this time. There really is not difference when it comes to drugs. In most cases 99% of those that use drugs become addicts. however with those just addicted to alcohol it is still about 10 to 11 percent become alcoholics. That does not apply however, to those that use alcohol when their other drugs are not available. Not confusing. To me, 'using' and 'addicted' are inner changeable.
You did not Cause this.
You cannot Control this,
You cannot Cure this.
It is all him, not you, except for your reactions, and YES their actions can make us totally crazy and make us doubt ourselves.
I am glad you are away from him and pray that you stay that way.
Stick with us here, find yourself some Alanon and/or Naranon meetings for YOU. They will help you work on you, and help you to find your own personal boundaries.
We are here for you and are walking with you in spirit. Feel free to rant, rave, scream, cry, and yes even laugh. We do understand, we have been there.
Love and hugs,