For me the gossip thing is at work. So I have to questions myself there - am I talking about someone's performance, poor or not, or am I getting personal, which means it's none of my business? Sometimes the personal gets crossed over into someone's work life and it affects their performance, so my commentary on their personal life ties into their work, which is my business as I am one of the bosses. I guess it's motives - am I saying something to make myself feel better about myself? Or is it strictly business related? I make it more complicated than it is I suppose, but it really does come down to my motives