Maybe its not time to step away from her but step closer.
I truly believe that one alcoholic has the ability of helping another, sometimes the plan doesn't pan out as we would expect...but maybe it was the plan all along....
Sometimes, we can be so deep in our own delusion, it becomes impossible to see....no matter how sober ..and in my experience , resentment is the number one offender .....maybe you have the ability to see something that concerns you that she doesn't ?
Some years ago, i took an alcoholic into my home and took him through the book..... about a year ago, i got into serious trouble with regards to maintaining my own recovery ( all my own making )....that guy that i took through the steps, took me back through the work...then and only then did i see the depth of delusion i was in....one alcoholic helping another....regardless of sobriety time..
God may get you busy when you least expect....in fact its always when i least expect it .