You don't have to buy the manipulation...
And as was said above, addiction doesn't excuse anything.
But there was this posted as a definition of manipulation
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What's manipulation exactly?
Playing a loved one, or one's family with words to keep the person(s) enabling the active A so said A can continue to get and use their drug of choice (DOC).
Being they words of blame (causing guilt) or words of wheedling and begging, or being super nice, or threatening to leave and it will be all your fault, or threatening suicide and it will be all your fault, etc
And here is where it gets sticky...cause focusing on their behavior is like the best excuse in the world to not look at our own. So flipping the question around, have you been manipulative, because many here have, we have blamed it all on, while we were there, taking and all in, begged and did the silent treatment and then were super nice and play the game right along with the addicts in our lives...
Focus on you and what you need and want in this life. You only get one go around, try not to miss anything!