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Old 01-18-2013, 12:11 PM
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andisa
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Fatally,
I read what you write and clearly you have much to offer a mate. You'd do well, I really believe, to get yourself in a solid place first, before investing in a relationship. I truly think that had I given myself that first year off habitual drug use to focus on being healthy myself I'd have a much sounder relationship now. Instead I never gave myself time to really work on what needed work. I thought that since I wasn't using I was good to go. But it's those reasons we use in the first place that need to be dealt with. Using isn't the problem, it's merely a symptom of what is the problem.

Enjoy the company of others, for now. Use the time to build on fashioning yourself into the person you want to be. Friendships, I've found, have so very much to offer. Be a friend for now, relationship later. Just a suggestion however of course, based on observation of self and others.
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