Welcome Buttercup, I'm sorry for what you are going through and I'm sorry your brother is suffering with the fall out from his choices. I agree with the previous to posts. When dealing with addicts the hardest thing to do is typically the right thing to do. It sounds as if you know this and are looking for some reassurance. I'm glad you found this site. I have found the support and advice is truly heartfelt and even if I can just "pop on" for a couple of minutes there is always a useful take-a-away. Stay strong and focus your energy and attention on those who can reciprocate it freely back to you. Your brother may very well see your strength and empower himself through that. Hug to you, Lizwig