I like how it says CALM personal reflection...reminds me of the phrase "First thought WRONG." Generally my first reaction to a situation is completely warped and generally pretty hostile...I can be very defensive off the bat and am a master at destroying people with my words. Don't know where I was going with that but I am glad I don't have to do that anymore. I damaged a lot of relationships that way for no other reason that fear of my pride and ego being bruised.