Originally Posted by
pigeon21 
Does this sound right? She said we are SUPPOSED to meet in a public place and I am simply not comfortable spilling out my 5th step in a CAFE!!
Step 4 is just about the structure involved in making your list. No details about your personal life needs to be discussed at this point. Step 5 is where you will need to find someplace private so you can let it all out.
If she insists on a public place, check to see if your local library has "Tutoring Rooms" available. They are typically small conference rooms that can be used for free by any member that makes a reservation.
If you don't trust this person 100%, you can do just the step 4 with her and do step 5 with someone else. I know many people who did their 5th step with a therapist or clergy member.