Thanks for the responses. I and my uncle have given up trying to get help for my Dad. I don't know if he will ever see how he is enabling her addiction, we have plied him with alanon, NA and other writings. We even tried a pseudo intervention for him, but it seems like he thinks she is his cross to bear. Violence, theft, incarceration, being taken out of the house by police in restraints does not convince him that he is in over his head. All I can do is listen to him vent about her, which isn't much. I have no idea how else to help someone who won't accept help.