Originally Posted by
Rosiepetal 
I personally think addiction came first.
I think a lot of emotional abuse is merely shifting guilt into blame.
It makes it easier for the addict then to blame someone else for their everything.
If they overcome addiction they may have more acceptance & therefore the abuse stops as they start to control their own lives.
I think your right too. I think for some addiction did come first for thosevwho when sober are just ***** dory and it stops but there are some who abuse came first ....they either don't wabt to change their abusive ways or they need help to do so. So I guess when ypur think about it every situation isn't the same but when addictions involved what needs to be done is