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Wondering if you need find a new councelor?
Though from a Christian perspective AA falls short in some areas...AA works and the 12 steps are lessons of life that can also be found in the bible.
In my opinion for the councelor to pull the rug out from under him, was not a good idea. Replace AA with a church recovery program would have been a good idea but to bash AA like that?
I think what would be good for you... Al Anon or a church sponsored replacement for Al Anon.
A bible study for couples would be nice as well.
God's word and through reading as well as studying His word can bring needed changes to him. It did for me.
AA is not bad. The councelor saying it was has given him an excuse to remain lazy. Yes His issues and only he can fix them. Al Anon for you would help you better understand and deal with life. Will give you the tools to do what needs be done so your life stops getting pulled into his issues.
It is good to see your commitment to your marriage.
You have my prayers with you. Prayers for His peace and strength for you and prayers that the Lord touch his heart as he has touched mine. May his heart become filled with the Lord's love as he does what is commanded to husbands... love our wife. Remember Focus is just down the street and around the corner. They have some of the best councelors and support available.