Originally Posted by
bcon 
Has anyone found a support group for people whose spouses are severely affected by an abusive alcoholic parent and who are attracted to para-alcoholics who control the spouse but will not admit they... need help themselves.
EXACTLY. The original post is saying, "My spouse is an ACOA. Our problem is all his --
he needs to change, or the marriage won't work."
At one time, I thought the only issue in my household was that my wife drank -- if only
she would address
her problem, all would be well. Uh, nope. I needed some work, too -- in fact, after I started going to Al-Anon, things got a lot better at home, even well before she went to treatment for alcoholism. If I hadn't taken a look in the mirror, nothing would have changed.
T