My apologies skunkape. I really don't want to bring tears to anyone anymore. Are you the substance side? If so I simply say.....choose life.....let love....accept once for all time that you have value and that others love you and see that value in you even though you may not. They are willing to go to great lengths to help you figure it out....but you must first accept that they are not "trying" to control you, they are trying to love you. It's a social contract we humans have. They are trying to make some of your decisions for you because you are "sick". You have a cold and they are trying to bring you what you need because you are sick right now and can't do it for yourself. Appreciate the help! It comes from love! You won't be sick forever.
You are loved!