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sweeks · 10-26-2004, 03:28 PM

Thanks bikewench that link was kinda helpful....the problem is that the fears and the worry ARE irrational. I can reason things out with myself and my mind knows that they are unfounded but my heart just doesn't catch on.

You are right that talking to the person despels the fear but the problem is that ALL of it is surrounding my husband....after reading the book on codependecy I feel like I shouldn't be constantly forcing him to give me some reassurance that I should be able to give myself. I don't want him to feel guilty for doing totally normal things due to my irrational fears.

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sweeks Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Des Moines, IA Posts: 184	Thanks bikewench that link was kinda helpful....the problem is that the fears and the worry ARE irrational. I can reason things out with myself and my mind knows that they are unfounded but my heart just doesn't catch on. You are right that talking to the person despels the fear but the problem is that ALL of it is surrounding my husband....after reading the book on codependecy I feel like I shouldn't be constantly forcing him to give me some reassurance that I should be able to give myself. I don't want him to feel guilty for doing totally normal things due to my irrational fears.