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Old 09-04-2012, 05:23 AM
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SundaysChild
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: Massachusetts
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madkarma,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Addiction is a chronic, progressive disease that involves not only the addict, but everyone who loves them.

The good thing about your situation is that your daughter has moved out, and is financially independent. That makes your role clearer - it's very difficult to set boundaries with "emerging adults" who still live under your roof. She is making some adult choices - very bad choices - but they are hers.

The other good thing about your situation is that she seems to be still "early" in the process. Some addicts experience a "high bottom" when they realize what's happening in their life, either on their own or through an intervention, and decide they want to escape the chaos of addiction. Unfortunately, for many, this doesn't happen until they have lost everything. I pray that your daughter comes to her senses soon, but you need to prepare yourself for the fact that she will make some really horrible choices, and that there is not a lot you can do about them...they are her choices.

What you should do:

        The rest of the "mama posse" on SR will be by soon with more experience, strength, and hope.
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