When "normal" people ask me about my son and how I am handling it, I get really miffed when they say "Oh yes, that Tough Love really works". "You gotta be tough".
I try to explain to them that my program is NOT about HIM...that it is about loving myself and setting my boundaries, and about MY spirituality and self-respect.
To me, "Tough Love" would indicate that I am still trying to contol him by being tough and doing tough things to him...and that is not even close to where I am today.
I love my son unconditionally. I love him in his worst moment. There is nothing tough about that. I love him enough to "gently" let him go and find his own way.
Just needed to vent...I get a little miffed sometimes
