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New Day · 10-19-2004, 02:52 PM

After his suicide attempt that resulted from a previous addiction to pain meds, when he opened up to his dr and a plan was put in place for a controled withdrawel from the meds, we went out together and bought a medication container that hold meds for a week allowing for four doses a day. I filled those religiously for him and he was very happy for my assistance and then he wanted to do it himself. OK, he is entitled. He is an adult. Well not long after I noticed that he wasn't filling his meds container anymore and the excuses started to come about why he couldn't and and it was too time consuming. I offered to do it again for him and he said that was great but did not have the time to update me on his new med doses and when I follow up with him he says it is too much work to write it down for me or he is too tired at night to tell me...excuses. After that is when I found out he started with the pain meds. Again, I can only speculate that he started missing doses or self-medicating because of added work stresses, etc. and that weakened him to the allure of the sort term "benefits" of the pain meds making it better and his willingness to believe he could take them for a couples of days to get him over this hump and then stop.

This is where we always come back to is why when things are going well you need the cushion, buffer, of a "program" to keep you strong...so when the temptations come you are stronger or have a plan in place to deal with them. His response is one of these: I am fine and therefore I don't need it; I am too busy now and will do it later; or I am "trying" but can't get me any specifics or gives the specifics but does not follow through.

We will find out tonight we have a joint appt with our therapist. Because we are working on our marriage, our therapist sees us together and individually.

The mania I have seen before and is normal in an out of control mania...he seems somewhat stable now. I would prefer the mania than the depression with him because the depression many times has lead to suicide attempts.

Thanks

10-19-2004, 02:52 PM	#8 (permalink)
New Day Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Sorting it all out... Posts: 17	After his suicide attempt that resulted from a previous addiction to pain meds, when he opened up to his dr and a plan was put in place for a controled withdrawel from the meds, we went out together and bought a medication container that hold meds for a week allowing for four doses a day. I filled those religiously for him and he was very happy for my assistance and then he wanted to do it himself. OK, he is entitled. He is an adult. Well not long after I noticed that he wasn't filling his meds container anymore and the excuses started to come about why he couldn't and and it was too time consuming. I offered to do it again for him and he said that was great but did not have the time to update me on his new med doses and when I follow up with him he says it is too much work to write it down for me or he is too tired at night to tell me...excuses. After that is when I found out he started with the pain meds. Again, I can only speculate that he started missing doses or self-medicating because of added work stresses, etc. and that weakened him to the allure of the sort term "benefits" of the pain meds making it better and his willingness to believe he could take them for a couples of days to get him over this hump and then stop. This is where we always come back to is why when things are going well you need the cushion, buffer, of a "program" to keep you strong...so when the temptations come you are stronger or have a plan in place to deal with them. His response is one of these: I am fine and therefore I don't need it; I am too busy now and will do it later; or I am "trying" but can't get me any specifics or gives the specifics but does not follow through. We will find out tonight we have a joint appt with our therapist. Because we are working on our marriage, our therapist sees us together and individually. The mania I have seen before and is normal in an out of control mania...he seems somewhat stable now. I would prefer the mania than the depression with him because the depression many times has lead to suicide attempts. Thanks __________________ Last edited by New Day; 10-19-2004 at 02:58 PM. Reason: typos