I appreciate your response. I am sure you have heard this all before.
I keep asking myself, what more can I do? And then I hear the words of my therapist, it is his responsbility and he has to learn there are consequences for his actions and take responsibility for them.
My husband's dr has repeatedly encouraged him that his bi-polar is managable with medications. The only thing I suspect is happening is that he starts feeling well, is stable, and then believes he does not need them anymore and starts missing doses. And because he does not eat well or sleep well, he starts self dosing. This has been a major struggle...he does not want to restrict what he eats or put himself on a sleep schedule. He has refused to keep the mood charts and sleep charts so his meds can be better adjusted.
Any way I look at it now, I have to face the fact that he does have all the resources available to him and goes at times but has not fully accepted and/or committed to his recovery and he needs to make that choice
Also, in our entire 8 years of marriage he has complained that I don't support him and that I am trying to control him, then he threatens me with, "you know, I can do anything I want, when I want". I believe that is the illness and/or addiction speaking. He has a major problem with the perception of being controlled. Case in point: with his parol officer he feels that she is trying to control him and is working to throw him back in jail. When she has conducted her drop bys she tells me that all my husband needs to do is obey the law and step up to the plate and take responsibility but she is not out to get him. His therapist knows her and has reassured him of the same as well.
He has this issue of being controlled and says he will not be controlled.
We are all controlled to some extent..there are rules for just about everything. Life laws included! Is this the illness/addiction speaking?
Thanks!