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New Day · 10-18-2004, 06:50 PM

My husband has been on medication since 1994. Currently he is taking Neuronton, Paxil, Soeroquil, and recently DC'd Lamictal due to a rash that was thought to be attributed to the lamictal but now his psychiatrist believes it was the pain meds.

I agree that my husband should be under his drs care in trying to withdraw from the pain meds, especially since his most recent suicide attempt was attributed to addiction to the same meds. He felt that he was too much of a burden to me and that he would not be able to get off the pain meds. His dr, his dad and I talked him through it with medication to calm him and put him to sleep. The next morning was like it never happened. After that with his drs help in adjusting his current meds he was able to get off of them with little problem. Unfortunately, my husband is not working any type of recovery program and believes he can take the pain meds a few days here and there and it will not cause any problems with his meds and he can get off of them without any problem. I know this is a bunch of bull!!! Been there before.

I am now finding as a result of this "taste", recent dabble with the pain meds again he must have been in more of a manic state because he has purchased several watches off of ebay plus a few others

I do love him, however, if he is not willing to work a recovery program, isn't ok for me to say that I will not pay for or clean up after him?

I am in therapy myself, in fact I went first and I shared that the person I was seeing has experience with bi-polar and addictions and since he has stated in he past this is something he wanted to do I encouraged him to see this therapist. Now the story is different and he goes here and then, forgets appts, does not reschedule when he says he will and tells me that he is trying and at least he goes sometimes.

That sounds to me like the addiction or bi-polar has a hold of him. :suspect:

Thoughts?

10-18-2004, 06:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
New Day Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Sorting it all out... Posts: 17	My husband has been on medication since 1994. Currently he is taking Neuronton, Paxil, Soeroquil, and recently DC'd Lamictal due to a rash that was thought to be attributed to the lamictal but now his psychiatrist believes it was the pain meds. I agree that my husband should be under his drs care in trying to withdraw from the pain meds, especially since his most recent suicide attempt was attributed to addiction to the same meds. He felt that he was too much of a burden to me and that he would not be able to get off the pain meds. His dr, his dad and I talked him through it with medication to calm him and put him to sleep. The next morning was like it never happened. After that with his drs help in adjusting his current meds he was able to get off of them with little problem. Unfortunately, my husband is not working any type of recovery program and believes he can take the pain meds a few days here and there and it will not cause any problems with his meds and he can get off of them without any problem. I know this is a bunch of bull!!! Been there before. I am now finding as a result of this "taste", recent dabble with the pain meds again he must have been in more of a manic state because he has purchased several watches off of ebay plus a few others I do love him, however, if he is not willing to work a recovery program, isn't ok for me to say that I will not pay for or clean up after him? I am in therapy myself, in fact I went first and I shared that the person I was seeing has experience with bi-polar and addictions and since he has stated in he past this is something he wanted to do I encouraged him to see this therapist. Now the story is different and he goes here and then, forgets appts, does not reschedule when he says he will and tells me that he is trying and at least he goes sometimes. That sounds to me like the addiction or bi-polar has a hold of him. :suspect: Thoughts?