Marriage counseling does not work when one partner is in active addiction. Been there, done that....
The addict has to be in recovery and have a nice chunk of recovery work behind him before he can work on a relationship.
Even the attorney said I was probably making something out of nothing , and proceeded to tell me about how he drank like a fish for weeks before his big day
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My brother too – yep got loaded many times he said. Its normal.
NO. If one truly wants to get married, they don't need to use to escape that reality.