Welcome New Day.
I don't live with anyone who has bi-polar, but I work with many who have this disorder. I can understand how hard it is for both of you. It always breaks my heart to watch what they have to go through, but I've also been on the end where I've stayed up countless of hours monitoring so they don't injure themselves. It can be really tough even when they are on the proper medication because their medication needs can change rapidly. It is imperative that the psychiatrist is good and knows how to monitor the medication properly. I've seen some really bad psychiatrists who make things worse rather than better. Don't hesitate to get a second opinion.
You also need support wherever you can find it. There are many people here with bi-polar disorder who are also recovering from addiction. They may have better insight as to how to handle the situation you're in. You may try posting questions on the mental health forum. The family and friends forum also has a lot of good information in the power posts and sticky posts on the top of that forum.
We're glad you're here.
Hugs,
MG