I like that tjp, thank you. Yes, it's abuse. It doesn't matter what KIND of abuse it is, abuse is abuse. So, if he PUNCHES YOU IN THE FACE does it matter whether or not he meant it? Not with this girl. You punch me in the face, you will never have the opportunity to do that to me again. You abuse me, I walk away, and you will never have the opportunity to do that to me again.
I think the first time abuse happens is the most opportune time to nip it in the bud. But we don't recognize abuse early on. We blame ourselves. We say we deserve it. We love them or are in love with them. We are needy or dependent and think we can't live without them. So we take it. And the longer you take it, the more you blame yourself. Till you get to the point where you're insanely asking whether or not the person MEANT TO abuse you.
Sick people will make you sick. Stay AWAY from them.