I've been seeing a counselor who specializes in addiction and codependency for the past 2 months. It's really helping me get my head screwed on straight. My husband is an alcoholic.
The last counselor was not all that up on alcoholism, and I really feel like we (my AH and I) spun our wheels with him. Getting a counselor who "gets" alcoholism is key. Ours didn't and he missed a lot of huge red flags.
PS, I meant counseling for YOU. Counseling for the two of you is a waste of time and money as long as he's unable to look at his addiction.