Reading your post makes me cry. Your storry is exactly mine, like Pelicans story too...makes me realize how not crazy I am. My ah just relapsed Fri after 8mos sober and he moved out. He's acting like I did something wrong. He too is a great husband and father sober and I kept justifying that to everyone...his dad was alcoholic, mom addicted to drugs, sisters alcoholics....you really have to just protect your children and that's all you can do. Keep posting, it helps.