I have two sons who are addicts and I think an impact letter is a great idea, especially from a mother to a son. I find that discussions with an addict aren't always helpful depending on the state they're in and a letter can be read and re-read over and over again. This forum was suggested to me as I am in the process of writing an impact letter. After 12 years of living with addicts, and two rehabs, its time for tough love so I can get MY life back. The choice has to be made BY the addict FOR the addict to change and keep on the straight and narrow, or throw everything away and perhaps die (too awful to think about)