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Old 03-19-2012, 11:14 PM
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MemphisBlues
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Just a couple of thoughts from my own experience: I also have to make amends to an ex-wife and am struggling with the way to do it. I do see your husband's point, that the amends need to be done in person. it sounds like he has a good sponsor.

As hard as it may be, I think you do need to make amends to your deceased ex-husband. I have no advice on how to do it, but my sponsor is working with me on this aspect. I need to make amends to deceased parents -- they died more than 30 years ago.

As hard as it is to be in recovery as a couple, there are things we just have to let go of. It's individual recovery, not couple or group recovery.
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