Originally Posted by
Becky1234 
I would be happy to join Alanon but how would they feel if I explained that my husband hasn't had a drink in three years?
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Alanon is for the loved one of an alcoholic -whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not.
Something to that effect is read at every meeting.
I have attended meetings with partners of alcoholics that have been active in Alanon for over 15 years. Their sober parnters are no longer drinking, and active in AA. They continue to work their programs daily, and they offers their ES&H (experience, strength and hope) to others.