[lonlion]

Hmmm, don't know if I am the right one to respond to this as I have a set of twins myself, but I do feel compassion for you. I was cheated on by my husband, and can relate to that pain. I guess you decided to forgive her and that is why you are with her. Very hard lesson for your wife to learn about the consequences of her actions.
Funny how painful lessons can be, but definately necessary for personal growth.

Sounds like you are both in allot of pain. Be strong together, grieve together, and support each other and try not to forget to take care of yourself as well.

Your relationship could grow stronger because of this, its up to you and her. Obviously she feels bad about the affair, and man, what a price to pay. As a woman I can only imagine her pain and guilt. Try to be loving and strong for her, and decide if you can truly forgive her in your heart and work things out. As for terminating the twins, there is nothing you can do now about it, they are with God, and He will take good care of them. Trust in that.