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boryad · 09-10-2004, 08:49 AM

Hi Want2, I ride both sides of the fence on this one. I have always had jealousy issues and for the most part, I think I've kept them pretty well tempered, not too much backlash when they have reared their ugly heads. However, being the focus of a jealous man, it has totally destroyed me and our relationship. It gets exhausting defending myself and has left me as an empty shell of a person. It has driven me away and the lack of trust is damaging.

I'm glad you recognize this in yourself, as I have in myself and I work on it daily. For me, it's a matter of adopting the "oh well" attitude and work on myself and know that I can't control what my SO is doing, who he's with, who he's talking to. His actions will speak for themselves. As for the jealous man, he found his realizations too little too late to save our relationship. To this day, he still lurks, peeks, invades and all I do is get angry.

I hope you learn to love yourself for who you are, refrain from jealous outbursts and actions to avoid putting a wedge between you and the special lady in your life.

09-10-2004, 08:49 AM	#3 (permalink)
boryad Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Tartfest 2007 Posts: 831	Hi Want2, I ride both sides of the fence on this one. I have always had jealousy issues and for the most part, I think I've kept them pretty well tempered, not too much backlash when they have reared their ugly heads. However, being the focus of a jealous man, it has totally destroyed me and our relationship. It gets exhausting defending myself and has left me as an empty shell of a person. It has driven me away and the lack of trust is damaging. I'm glad you recognize this in yourself, as I have in myself and I work on it daily. For me, it's a matter of adopting the "oh well" attitude and work on myself and know that I can't control what my SO is doing, who he's with, who he's talking to. His actions will speak for themselves. As for the jealous man, he found his realizations too little too late to save our relationship. To this day, he still lurks, peeks, invades and all I do is get angry. I hope you learn to love yourself for who you are, refrain from jealous outbursts and actions to avoid putting a wedge between you and the special lady in your life.