Originally Posted by
fulloffaith 
He was doing aa, but I guess just going through the motions. At the time, I spoke with a friend and was asking exactly your question....why has he not apologized? Will he ever apologize? I made the choice to give our marriage a last chance and figured he'd apologize in time. He did not. He started drinking and is now gone. I think that a true and genuine apology, for our relationship, would have made a difference. Not just the words; I think the true and honest apology only comes after true and real sobriety. Does that make sense? Just my thoughts....
Thanks, and yes, it makes sense. As you've learned, no amount of "going through the motions" is a substitute for quitting. One must come to see drinking, in and of itself, for what it is, or nothing will change. I'm sorry you had to go through this.