I was with my ex for 3 years, had a kid with him and loved him. I left when I found out he had graduated to the next level of using. Still to this day he says I am the reason he used/uses. He says I was it when I was with him because I stressed him out and was never good enough, and after I left because I abandoned him and was told I never loved him after all for leaving. He told me that many times. Get out now! Please listen to others on here, they do know what they are talking about from experience. I joined after I had already made the decision and searching for support.