I don't see the point in blaming others or in pointing fingers. Not because others have never caused us harm but because it take our focus and energy away from where it needs to be--on ourselves and our recovery. Besides blame is about something in the past, its over, all the blame in the world won't change a thing. You've got today and what you do with it shapes and changes tomorrows today. All you control is yourself and I'd say its a waste of time to place blame there too. Recovery is about moving forward, letting go of past resentments and living as fully and healthfully as you can today.