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Old 07-24-2011, 01:36 AM
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bridgers22
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: California
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I totally understand your frustration. I haven't been to any meetings yet or been in this group long, but from my view, it sounds like most of the things you're saying will be your fault are all his actions.

If you lose, you'll be doing what you think is best and it will be his decision to continue using. It's not your responsibility to make him get more -- nor can you, he has to do that himself.

If you tell his parents and they disown him, it's [B]his actions[B] that caused them to, not yours. It's not the act of you telling them, it's his actions. And he will still have a family, but only when he's on the path to recovery and can open himself up to them.

Just know that it's not your fault he's an addict and it's not your actions that cause any of the results you're worried about. He already did the things for those consequences. Him. Not you. You need to do what's healthy for yourself and not worry about him having to face the reality of his addiction.

Best of luck to you!
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