Boring...bjmt...I think that is the first time I have heard that and you know what? You are right. Boring, predictable and tedious...I have to wonder about other long term marriages tho...wouldn't they become the same? Predictable?
Being married for a long time, successfully, requires tolerance whether the other person is an alcoholic or not. Being married to someone who doesn't have the same goals and values is part of life doncha think?
I like to consider myself a bit of a health nut...needless to say Ward is not. I think that bother's me more than even the drinking. He can afford it, he goes to work, he doesn't get nasty...when we have somewhere to go he behaves himself 99.9% of the time. I am no longer dissappointed when he falls face first in his dinner, in the privacy of his own home...it makes me sad. But I grab a book or take a walk.
I am not trying to make any point here...I have not been in a real good place with him lately. So I need to remember what I just posted.
Thanks,
JT