Originally Posted by
laurie6781 
No sweetie, the way my sponsors did nd I see it also these 30 years as the cause (column 2) is where we start to figure out that the cause was really ours not theirs. ie When we start out working on column two especially the first time, we are writing 'blame' to the other person, but as we continue we see where the faults were our own, whether it was our response, lack of response, how we responded, etc
At least after I did my Column 1. Then went back to the top of page 1 to start column 2, that is what happened for me and has for many others. Then when I went back to the tope of page 2 to start column 3, that was also an EYE OPENER as I began to write, because not only were 'what was affected in me coming out' on each name but so were my own defects of character.
However, all this is really just my experience and how it works for me and has for many I work with. I keep it simple. It sounds more complicated typing it out than it is actually just doing the step, lol
It is amazing to me how 'smoothly' my 4th steps have gone, by just writing not typing, a column at a time, a flow starts to happen, it all falls into place and a feeling of Peace and Serenity, even before completion started to happen the first time and every time since when 'more was revealed'.
Others will interpret and do as they see fit. I found for me it was great that my sponsor's sponsor had been one of the originals and this was how I was taught. So J M H O
Quote:
Originally Posted by AA BB 1st, pg 64
In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper. We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry.
I repeat that is not in Column 1. See what I just typed in this post.
Love and hugs,
The BB does say that we listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry.
These are the directions I find regarding resentments:
Column 1: ("I'm resentful at:")
"We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry."
Column 2: ("The Cause:")
"We asked ourselves why we were angry. In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships, (including sex) were hurt or threatened. So we were sore. We were 'burned up.'"
Column 3: ("Affects my:")
"On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with?"
Column 4: (My part)
"Referring to our list again. Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened? Though a situation had not been entirely our fault, we tried to disregard the other person involved entirely. Where were we to blame? The inventory was ours, not the other person's. When we saw our faults we listed them. We placed them before us in black and white. We admitted our wrongs honestly and were willing to set these matters straight."
SIU
