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2stop · 08-13-2004, 12:46 PM

((((((((runningfree)))))))))

I understand and can relate to a lot of what you are thinking..and subsequently feeling from these thoughts.
I have found cognitive therapy helps alot. Challenging every erroneous belief system we have decided to rely on for our guide through this world.
You wrote that you are not a good writer..I beg to differ! Your post was organized, coherent..to the point...complex rationalizations, deductions..what is missing IMO is the tools to restructure your belief system..the tools to challenge every negative thought process and replace it with positive workable belief systems. It is hard work..but it can be done.. Do you see a therapist? I would strongly recommend one that does cognitive therapy. The releif is quicker for me than medication...But please do consult with your doctor about your meds..they may need readjusting...the combo of meds and cognitive behaviour training has helped many people.

What I do is make a list..pretty much like what you posted about what I thought my weaknesses were..and then I wrote down my strengths..your strengths you listed were treasuring friendship...loving your children...do you know how many kids have no mother to love them???? That is a beautiful thing..

You say physically you feel weak and struggle..what I have found with this situation for me is to do even ONE thing each day that acknowledges I am working to strengthen my body..if I am watching tv I do leg lifts or knee bends..I stretch....

When we argue for our limitations..yep! We get them...We have to slowly begin to challenge each negative thought process and after identifying them and replacing them with a positive affirmation....DO something..no matter how small or little or inconsequential it seems...do it.

I am sending huge hugs of support your way...and prayers for the wisdom and courage to seek the help that is available....you are very honest in your posts..that is a huge plus....you can make it to becoming the confident able person you already are...we just have to start belieeving it is possible to change..then step by baby step do what it takes.

hang in there..There IS hope my friend.

(((((((((((((((Big HUgs)))))))))))))))))))

08-13-2004, 12:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,794	((((((((runningfree))))))))) I understand and can relate to a lot of what you are thinking..and subsequently feeling from these thoughts. I have found cognitive therapy helps alot. Challenging every erroneous belief system we have decided to rely on for our guide through this world. You wrote that you are not a good writer..I beg to differ! Your post was organized, coherent..to the point...complex rationalizations, deductions..what is missing IMO is the tools to restructure your belief system..the tools to challenge every negative thought process and replace it with positive workable belief systems. It is hard work..but it can be done.. Do you see a therapist? I would strongly recommend one that does cognitive therapy. The releif is quicker for me than medication...But please do consult with your doctor about your meds..they may need readjusting...the combo of meds and cognitive behaviour training has helped many people. What I do is make a list..pretty much like what you posted about what I thought my weaknesses were..and then I wrote down my strengths..your strengths you listed were treasuring friendship...loving your children...do you know how many kids have no mother to love them???? That is a beautiful thing.. You say physically you feel weak and struggle..what I have found with this situation for me is to do even ONE thing each day that acknowledges I am working to strengthen my body..if I am watching tv I do leg lifts or knee bends..I stretch.... When we argue for our limitations..yep! We get them...We have to slowly begin to challenge each negative thought process and after identifying them and replacing them with a positive affirmation....DO something..no matter how small or little or inconsequential it seems...do it. I am sending huge hugs of support your way...and prayers for the wisdom and courage to seek the help that is available....you are very honest in your posts..that is a huge plus....you can make it to becoming the confident able person you already are...we just have to start belieeving it is possible to change..then step by baby step do what it takes. hang in there..There IS hope my friend. (((((((((((((((Big HUgs))))))))))))))))))) __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~