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sober1_94 · 08-07-2004, 12:31 PM

Lynda,
First...a big congrats on your 23 months clean/sober. Second, you are doing all the things that are positive for your recovery, i.e. talking with sponsor, going to meetings, reaching out, working on you, and very important, taking care of "you" etc

It took me staying with "that man" for 5 years and a relapse for me to get to where I am at today...another thread. The hardest thing that I have done for myself was to let go of "him." Even knowing that I am willing to do all it takes for recovery, it still hurt like he$$

What I have found for me......
After being clean and sober, working on myself, taking care of me.....There were/are a whole load of folks I have found, I no longer "like," One being, "him," who is now out of my life.
As my self esteem grew, and as I started to get to know me, what had once been acceptable was no longer acceptable. I began to like myself enough to demand I be treated with respect and that I deserve to be treated with such. I also have a 0 policy as far as abuse today, be it mental, psychical, or, emotional abuse.

Lynda, you have reached yet another healthy plateau in your recovery. Why it hurts so much, and why it is so hard to do what is the positive, healthy thing for ourselves I will never know. I just know that as I was told, by those who had been there before me, it works.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep coming back and let us know how you are doing.

huggers kk

08-07-2004, 12:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
sober1_94 Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Wichita Kansas Posts: 38	Lynda, First...a big congrats on your 23 months clean/sober. Second, you are doing all the things that are positive for your recovery, i.e. talking with sponsor, going to meetings, reaching out, working on you, and very important, taking care of "you" etc It took me staying with "that man" for 5 years and a relapse for me to get to where I am at today...another thread. The hardest thing that I have done for myself was to let go of "him." Even knowing that I am willing to do all it takes for recovery, it still hurt like he$$ What I have found for me...... After being clean and sober, working on myself, taking care of me.....There were/are a whole load of folks I have found, I no longer "like," One being, "him," who is now out of my life. As my self esteem grew, and as I started to get to know me, what had once been acceptable was no longer acceptable. I began to like myself enough to demand I be treated with respect and that I deserve to be treated with such. I also have a 0 policy as far as abuse today, be it mental, psychical, or, emotional abuse. Lynda, you have reached yet another healthy plateau in your recovery. Why it hurts so much, and why it is so hard to do what is the positive, healthy thing for ourselves I will never know. I just know that as I was told, by those who had been there before me, it works. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep coming back and let us know how you are doing. huggers kk __________________ If ya pray for steak and ya get beans.....make chili!!!