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Cap3 · 08-05-2004, 10:12 AM

Hey Lynda,you say that your partner,becomes revengeful,and getting back at you for things that you have done in your past.Have you made amends for those things.?Your part in it all?If so,then your part is now over.Sometimes people{2} have not accepted my amends,and have come back at me,with their,full blast,sickness.,for the things that ive said and done to them when i was loaded.But i dont let others hold me hostage.I cant,if im to live a happy,,relativiely normal life.I made my amends,and have not gone back to that kind of behaviour.,through the Grace of God,and programs.No amount of guilt,,they tried to pass onto me,will ever change my past.it happened.And now its all in God,s hands.I humanly cant do anymore to help ease their pain.They must work through it.They are in AA.I dont fear what they will do.One pulled a boner,on me,i cant control them.what i can do,is pray for their peace,happiness,in their lives.And,i can take legal action,if need be.If in the future calls for it.Or whatever action is needed in the situation,and then let it go.I too,stay away,,from these people,because ,being in contact,is not helful to me,or them.People change.I change,so i dont know what the future holds for us.May become good ole buds down da road,or not.But for now,im keeping my distance.That gut feeling never lies to me..But i flatly refuse to live in..fear...Been there for many,many years.I ask God to give ,me, the courage,strenght,to do His Will,in this situation.And not to let mind my mind,,into the what,ifs,,lol.What if this happened,,or that.Keeping focused on Today,and dealing with what is.I have to.Because i could really get into the what if,s.If something does happen,God will give me the strenght,courage,to handle the situation.He has so far.My mind is focused on today.Living in the moment.
Just sharring with you what is working in my life.Hope it may be helpful to you.
Sending you prayer for both of you.May peace,be yours ..
God Bless,,take care!!!!!!!!

08-05-2004, 10:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
Cap3 Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 727	Hey Lynda,you say that your partner,becomes revengeful,and getting back at you for things that you have done in your past.Have you made amends for those things.?Your part in it all?If so,then your part is now over.Sometimes people{2} have not accepted my amends,and have come back at me,with their,full blast,sickness.,for the things that ive said and done to them when i was loaded.But i dont let others hold me hostage.I cant,if im to live a happy,,relativiely normal life.I made my amends,and have not gone back to that kind of behaviour.,through the Grace of God,and programs.No amount of guilt,,they tried to pass onto me,will ever change my past.it happened.And now its all in God,s hands.I humanly cant do anymore to help ease their pain.They must work through it.They are in AA.I dont fear what they will do.One pulled a boner,on me,i cant control them.what i can do,is pray for their peace,happiness,in their lives.And,i can take legal action,if need be.If in the future calls for it.Or whatever action is needed in the situation,and then let it go.I too,stay away,,from these people,because ,being in contact,is not helful to me,or them.People change.I change,so i dont know what the future holds for us.May become good ole buds down da road,or not.But for now,im keeping my distance.That gut feeling never lies to me..But i flatly refuse to live in..fear...Been there for many,many years.I ask God to give ,me, the courage,strenght,to do His Will,in this situation.And not to let mind my mind,,into the what,ifs,,lol.What if this happened,,or that.Keeping focused on Today,and dealing with what is.I have to.Because i could really get into the what if,s.If something does happen,God will give me the strenght,courage,to handle the situation.He has so far.My mind is focused on today.Living in the moment. Just sharring with you what is working in my life.Hope it may be helpful to you. Sending you prayer for both of you.May peace,be yours .. God Bless,,take care!!!!!!!!