There is much knowledge at the fountain of experience here. Many good, honest, and hard earned pearls of wisdom.
Just like you can't make your man do anything, none of us can make you see what we see so clearly. You came here seeking others experiences and opinions, yet haven't found ones that match what you've already decided to do. If you keep asking enough people, certainly some will agree with exactly the path you have self determined. I encourage you to go read through 20 - 30 posts here. read them all. then decide.
You will have to make and live with your decision.
Best wishes.