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sweeks · 08-04-2004, 09:04 PM

Well. I just found this website today and I figured I would join and see what knowledge I can glean from you folks.

I'm 22 years old and married. My mom as been an alcocholic for most of my life. Things are just now starting to come to a head.

Believe it or not I didn't even remeber that most of this was going on. When I was in health class in my freshman year they talked about "defence mechanisms" like denial.....I thought to myself "hmm that's very interesting" but didn't go much farther than that. So then my senior year in highschool my parents got in this huge fight and my mom starts to leave in the middle of it....my dad yelled something to her like "fine just go drink yourself into a coma and we'll pretend tomorrow that none of this ever happened" That was when it finally hit me that she was an alcholic. I started remembering all kinds of stuff. My mom passing out on the bed and pissing herself, getting drunk at a party and throwing up, my sister running away from home over her drinking. (she actually was sober for about 5-10 years there in the middle which probably helps explain why it was so easy for me to push it all out of my mind)

Anyway now within the last year she has been in rehab once, jail once, four car accidents, emergency room twice, out-patient treatment, and dissappeared altogether for days at a time more times than I can count. My dad (well step-father really but he might as well be my real dad) is talking about divorce because he just can't handle it anymore.....We've had to take away her car keys...all of her money and credit cards and such.....I feel like I'm the parent and I shouldn't have to be.

I'm at a total loss. I not longer have any hope that she will get better and I feel so hopeless like I should be doing something more than talking to her a couple times a week and going to some family meetings at her treatment facility.

Thanks for reading this. It has helped a lot just to say it here even if noone reads it.

08-04-2004, 09:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
sweeks Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Des Moines, IA Posts: 184	Daughter of an Alcoholic Mother Well. I just found this website today and I figured I would join and see what knowledge I can glean from you folks. I'm 22 years old and married. My mom as been an alcocholic for most of my life. Things are just now starting to come to a head. Believe it or not I didn't even remeber that most of this was going on. When I was in health class in my freshman year they talked about "defence mechanisms" like denial.....I thought to myself "hmm that's very interesting" but didn't go much farther than that. So then my senior year in highschool my parents got in this huge fight and my mom starts to leave in the middle of it....my dad yelled something to her like "fine just go drink yourself into a coma and we'll pretend tomorrow that none of this ever happened" That was when it finally hit me that she was an alcholic. I started remembering all kinds of stuff. My mom passing out on the bed and pissing herself, getting drunk at a party and throwing up, my sister running away from home over her drinking. (she actually was sober for about 5-10 years there in the middle which probably helps explain why it was so easy for me to push it all out of my mind) Anyway now within the last year she has been in rehab once, jail once, four car accidents, emergency room twice, out-patient treatment, and dissappeared altogether for days at a time more times than I can count. My dad (well step-father really but he might as well be my real dad) is talking about divorce because he just can't handle it anymore.....We've had to take away her car keys...all of her money and credit cards and such.....I feel like I'm the parent and I shouldn't have to be. I'm at a total loss. I not longer have any hope that she will get better and I feel so hopeless like I should be doing something more than talking to her a couple times a week and going to some family meetings at her treatment facility. Thanks for reading this. It has helped a lot just to say it here even if noone reads it.