Also I can only speak for myself but anyways my really good friends father use to do NA meetings and said there are the occasional home wreckers or "vultures" as he called them. Again I can only speak for myself and I had a great NA experience where I went and there was non of that there but just be careful of other peoples motives. My wife is not the same person I swear sometimes I think she got taken over by some cult or something, we dont even talk anymore but I still talk to my 12 yr old step daughter I raised almost daily which moved away to her dads in another country!!!