When I met my ex I drank a lot he drank and smoked a lot of pot, we had a great time together and this went on for about 4 yrs then I decided to get healthy, I quit drinking, quit smoking and started exercising regularly, (quitting drinking at that time was not a big deal for me). He continued to drink socially but he quit smoking dope (at least around me). Within a year of my quitting drinking I realized that my marriage kind of sucked, when I was drinking I didn't see the problems- sober I saw them all too clearly but I wanted the marriage to work. We stayed married another 3 yrs then he left me for another woman and then I went back to drinking with a vengeance.