Originally Posted by
tjp613 
Suki is right. I definitely get the vibe that this is about abuse, not alcohol. PLEASE get a very quick education about how to recognize abusive behavior -- around these parts we highly recommend the book "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft.
This.
I would also recommend these threads, especially the first one:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...sal-abuse.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...bal-abuse.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ening-you.html
Abuse and alcohol are two separate issues. Drinking may exacerbate abuse, but even a sober abuser is still an abuser.
Your story is reminding me of my abusive XABF (ex alcoholic boyfriend), and I wish I had left when these arguments started, because they only got worse, and more
violent.
Please take care of yourself, and educate yourself about abuse, so that you can recognize it for what it is, and step off the emotional roller coaster of confusion of "Maybe I'm the crazy one?"
You aren't crazy. And you're not alone.