I am so sorry. this is sad for you , I know. I was dating a man who seemed to be the perfect man, and he began to show his anger problems. we broke up and he begged and promised he would not do it again. I knew better and it only got worse. we were wrong for each other, but his temper was horrid, and I could not understand how a man or anyone, could call someone the most vile names ever, when they are just angry?
Sometimes we see red flags, so please take anger problems seriously. It might be a character defect that is just surfacing. it is his responsibility to figure it out. space and time out might be a good idea.
abuse has no excuse.
if a persons behavior does not make sense to you, trust your feelings.
hugs
chicory