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Old 02-18-2011, 06:24 PM
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Cyranoak
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Look...

...ultimatums are not necessarily a bad thing. They are just different from a boundary, exactly as Starcat so capably described in this thread.

The thing is, you only use ultimatums when they are just that-- ultimatums. And, an ultimatum is only an ultimatum if you are willing and able to manifest whatever consequence you have attached to it. Otherwise, you are just talking out of your ass, and you will lose all credibility.

Bottom line. Use boundaries when it is appropriate. Use ultimatums when they are appropriate. Only you know which is which. None of us can tell you.

Take what you want and leave the rest.

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