is an ultimatum a bad thing?
I am finally boiling down to my bottom line.
Acknowledgement of the dysfunction of lying, overdrinking/addiction/drinking to soothe depression, and depression and the need for active treatment of these issues.
I am finally saying I will accept no less.
My AH is saying I am giving him an ultimatum and that is dysfunctional.
Is he right?
When I think about ultimatums, they don't bring up warm fuzzies.
Maybe I need to just walk and not tell him I require these things.
Maybe it is giving him the chance to comply that makes it dysfunctional (when I already know he doesn't want to).
Maybe it is irrelevant to fuss over it because he won't and I'll be done and it won't add up to a hill of beans one way or the other.
Do you think ultimatums are dysfunctional or the same as setting a boundary of your bottom line and the consequences if not respected?