Originally Posted by
Onewithwings 
what we do when the people we harmed do not know we harmed them! .... I slept with your boyfriend-- sorry about that!" that just doesn't seem right to me...
Wrestling with this myself. Not calling this the correct answer (would love to hear what others think) but I look at it like this, that such an amend would be a clearing of my conscience at the expense of someone else...Sort of trading my hurt for another's.
Just my thought...