I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I've felt that way, too. Al-anon has helped me tremendously. One of the things we learn is that it's impossible to say, "If you loved me, you would..." It just doesn't work like that. It's not important what you know, but what you do. And what you're doing is working on your recovery. That's HUGE!! You should be patting yourself on the back for that.
What he's doing is on him. It's impossible for him to see outside his bottle. He's very sick, and his illness is holding tight right now. You can pray or meditate or whatever it is you do, and when you're feeling especially lost or down, then double up on your meetings. That has helped for me, and I hope it helps you, too.