It's a bullshi* excuse. They all are. They are separate issues-- completely separate issues.
Yep. Completely agreed. Just as the anger management and the controlling behavior and whathaveyou.
Quitting drinking is just the first step to dealing with these behaviors. My AH can't understand why I won't come back to him now that he's quit drinking. Um, because that only means you're now a
non-drunk person with a whole list of unacceptable behaviors?